Children of AAPIs deserve a pat on the back.
A report from AARP titled “Caregiving Among Asian Americans and Pacific Islanders Age 50+” found 73 percent of Asian Americans ages 45–55, compared to 49 percent of the general population, say they are expected to care for their aging parents.
Forty-two percent of Asian Americans say they care for their parents versus just 22 percent of other Americans.
What is responsible for these impressive statistics?
“AARP found that, due to cultural attitudes about filial piety, AAPI families are resistant to moving their parents to nursing homes or similar facilities and prefer caregiving be done at home by family members,” said Daphne Kwok, AARP vice president of multicultural markets and engagement.
“AAPIs believe there is a moral obligation for adult children to assume direct responsibility for aging parents.”
The challenges facing caregivers are many, including caring for themselves so that they can maintain the energy to care for their loved ones. They also can’t be afraid to seek out support and resources.
There are many things AAPI families can do to prepare for the care of their loved ones and of themselves as they get older.
Kwok suggests gathering medical and financial records in one place. Bring together a team of family, friends, and neighbors and discuss your wants and needs with them, and likewise, what you can offer.
You can also better prepare to care for your aging parents by picking the right time when it comes to difficult conversations. Know their values and preferences for their health care, and concerns, and learn details about their finances before an emergency.
“It never seems like the right time to bring up what we think will likely be a difficult topic,” said Kwok. “A lot of uncertainty can be avoided if you talk with your loved ones before something happens. You may be surprised to find your parents have been meaning to have the talk too and are relieved when you take the lead.”
These are statistics and tips we can support. (end)